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Is it unreasonable to request an acceptance letter detailing college course. I need to ensure that the course is one I need to pay for and all my ex will give me is a photography of my daughters identity lanyard.
Are you paying maintenance through CSA/CMS ? If so, then they will set the maintenance anyway. If you have a private arrangement, then it's really up to you whether you accept the evidence or not, and your ex has the option to open a case through the CMS if she feels that you should be paying the correct amount.
Hi there
Generally speaking, if the college course is classed as full time; which is over 12 hours a week, your ex would be considered eligible to receive maintenance. I don't think the CMS would require written proof, at least I've not come across that before.
If your ex is still receiving Child Benefit for your daughter this would be all the proof the CSA would require. A child is eligible for maintenance payments up until the age of 16, unless they remain in full time, non advanced education, (which is up to university level) in which case payments can continue up until they reach 20 years of age.
You could try contacting the college to find out more about the course your daughter is on, if you have parental responsibility then they should give this information to you, although they may require proof, such as a copy of your child's birth certificate.
Hello pjburton68@gmail.com
All the information that has been previously posted by both moderators, actd and Mojo, about your situation is correct.
Under child support legislation, regular child maintenance payments must be made until a child is 16 years old, or 20 if they are in full-time, non-advanced education (A-level or equivalent), or for as long as Child Benefit is being paid.
As family-based arrangements are not legally binding and are an agreement just between parents it is up to you both to decide when their maintenance payments should come to an end.
Parents do use the above guidelines of the Government statutory scheme, the Child Maintenance Service, to help them come to an agreement. Child Maintenance Options also have some support tools on their website that may help you come to an agreement with your ex-partner.
Their Talking About Money Guide and Discussion Guide are full of information about how you can plan your conversation with your ex-partner and how to negotiate your agreement and you can find them on their website at https://www.cmoptions.org
If you do have an arrangement through the Child Maintenance Service or the Child Support Agency (CSA) you will need to contact them directly about your concerns and you should be able to find their contact details on any letter they have sent you or at www.gov.uk/child-maintenance.
As Mojo has posted, if you do require information about your daughter’s education, you will need to speak directly either to your ex-partner, your daughter or her place of education.
For more information and for a more personalised service, you may wish to visit the Child Maintenance Options website yourself.
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William
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