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:boohoo: I have a very complex issue, but basically my ex wife has manipulated my kids, ruined my contact with my kids whom I haven't seen for 3 years now and one for 7 years. I had a court order to see the kids but she controlled the kids made it impossible to see them and I couldn't afford to fight anymore. I also have certain payments I make which were debt s when we were together which the CSA won't take into account nor the order as I only have a one night order. I am self employed and struggle day to day, I am remarried and have two children living with me. Why don't the Csa take anything into account and why should I pay directinto her account when I don't see my kids plus she has had over 20000 from me, house e c.. ....
Hi there
The CSA should be taking the children that are living with you into account and making a reduction. You can also appeal against their decision not to take the debts you accrued whilst still together into account.
Contact and maintenance are separate issues, as you have parental responsibility you have a responsibility to contribute to their upbringing whether you see them or not. I do think that both parents income should be taken into account but that's not the way the system works unfortunately.
I'm going to move your post over to the child maintenance section, it may get more of a response there.
I think mojo has covered pretty much all the points - I would contact the CSA and tell them you want to make a variation on the grounds mojo has said. Under CSA rules, with 2 dependant children, you should get a 20% reduction - so assuming you are paying 20% for 2 children to your ex, that would bring it down to 16%, plus the debt giving a further reduction.
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