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How did the £424 approx figure come about as with my gross salary less pension contribution I get it to calculate at about £220.00 for both girls??
I'm confused...
Thanks.
My apologies, I didn't account for the 3 nights per week stay, or the pension contribution, so your figure is probably correct. That aside, the points I raised still stand, but with your figures to play with.
Thanks all.
I think I am being reasonable but the issue arises that for some of the things that come out of the ex's account she is now pleading poverty (she kept house subject to me taking a 10% of value payment to come off deeds) and the chap she was cheating with hasn't sorted his own divorce or sale of his/his ex's property) so between my ex wife and her partner they have two mortgages to pay and my 2 girls and his 3 kids.
I've had the whole "he helps pay for your kids / I'll tell the girls you won't pay anymore for them so they can't do what they used to do" thrown at me which I class as emotional blackmail!
Other than asking the CSA to intervene as we'd tried to be amicable I don't know where else to turn.
I'd really get a case opened with CMS and get the payment sorted out. That is your minimum position, and makes it clear to her that is all you are legally obliged to pay, and if she kicks up a fuss, then that's all you will pay. If however, she acts reasonably, then you can agree with her to pay for certain other things.
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