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Hi all, in the last two weeks I've been contacted by the CSA to say that after switching over to the new system they have noticed that there are arrears of £613 showing from 2008. Up until now my ex partner and myself have had a private agreement in place and over the last 7 years have shared custody when one child lived with me for 5 years and the other lived with their mother. We have not asked for any money from each other during this time for support. My ex partner was contacted last week by the CSA saying they have noticed this arrears and did she want or if could they could write it off. Obviously she wants it, who wouldn't, but I've not been told about this and now they want full payment or an agreed monthly amount paid into her bank account. Where do I stand on this? CSA have said they can suspend it for a later date but I'm confused why how I'm being asked to pay this when I knew nothing about it. I have kept every letter from them since this started in 1998 and there is no mention of any arrears. I would appreciate your advice on this.
Kind regards,
Andrew
Hi and welcome
I would ask them for a breakdown of their calculation and an explanation of why this has suddenly come to light. Also, make sure that your payments to your ex are clearly marked as child maintenance, so that they know that current payments are for child maintenance and not for anything else. To be honest, they seem to be dealing with this in an unusually civil manner compared to some of the stories we've had on here, so it's best to deal with them in an equally civil manner so that if you do have to pay arrears, you can chose a reasonable schedule for doing so.
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