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I have been seperated from my ex for 3.5 years now. I pay £400 a month maintenance for my 11 year old son and up to now I have been paying for half of the mortgage.
I feel that I have been more than reasonable and now want either my ex to take over the mortgage or to sell the house. I will quite happily let her have any equity in the house if it is sold.
She has refused to consider either.
What can I do?
Steve
I wouldn't give up the equity quite so easily - possibly retain some until your son leaves home - even if you don't want it, you can give to to your son when he's looking to buy his own house.
I'd go and see Citizens Advice Bureau on this, or a solicitor to get it sorted out. With regard to maintenance, you should be paying 15% of your takehome pay in child maintenance, so if you are paying more than this, then you can ask the CSA to take your case if you can't agree with your ex.
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