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Hi all,
I have been paying my ex partner maintenance on a weekly basis through a private arrangement outside of CSA involvement.
This has been in place for nearly two years and everything has been relatively OK on that front.
Yesterday my ex partner took it upon herself to explain to my partner that I shouldn't be attending my daughters sports day at nursery because I'm not contributing towards the costs of her care. To say I was fuming yesterday was an understatement. I did keep a lid on it though for the good of keeping the peace.
If my ex has an issue with childcare costs she needs to speak to me about it not my partner. My ex also failed to mention she has spent 10 days in Italy and a long weekend in Amsterdam with her girlfriends this year which must have cost some money. Perhaps if she wasn't competing against Judith Chalmers she might have some money to put towards our daughters childcare.
Rant over. :woohoo:
yep. she should have spoken to you directly, at which point you could have explained that you are contributing to her nursery costs by way of paying maintenance.
Rant perfectly understandable :whistle: and well done for keeping calm (outwardly anyway).
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