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Hello there,
Im after some advice,
I have recently served my children's mum with a non-mol after she came round my house threatening to smash my partners face in. this isn't the only reason we went for a non-mol, various times collecting the children from her house she has been threatening to me whilst i had the children in the car and upsetting the children, various times she had rung/messaged me whilst with the children having a go and ruining my day with the children, she is very volatile and self proclaimed mental....
She only lets me see the children 1 day a week, yet when she was trying to defend herself at court she said i can have them for half the time, just trying to make herself look good. So the arrangement was before the non-mol every other Saturday or Sunday as i work every other Saturday. we tried a few nights but the children didn't like staying at my house overnight, my partner has done nothing to her or at her in the passed its just jealousy that i have successfully moved on after 5 years unlike her 4 tries since we split up, i have currently been with my partner for 2 and half years.
since the non-mol has been in order my mum has been the mediator and 1 of our 3 children has stayed away apparently she wanted to go to her friends, but i have had contact with the other 2 children, on 2 occasions since.
the children's mum has now stopped the children coming to my house and only letting me have them to take to dinner through my mum.
What can i do to see my children properly again?
Mediation with a non-mol?
Court for access? (court fees i could be putting away for my chidren)
With a non mol it is possible to enter into mediation.
What you are asking for though is a child arrangement order, a court ordered set of specific times and days where you each have the children.
It is a costly (if you have counsel) and lengthy process. Mine will have taken approx 11 months before a decision can even be contemplated to be made, and even longer if I go for a fact find. Bare that in mind before going down the legal route.
I hope this is somewhat helpful.
Hi there
The mediator is likely to say that mediation isn’t appropriate with a non mol in place. You can call them if you want to confirm this.
What are the conditions of the non mol? Does it allow for contact between you to arrange contact?
Unfortunately, your options are limited to mediation or court. You would need to make an application for a Child Arrangements Order, the fee for this is £215, but if you represent yourself, that will be the only expense.
We have many members that have managed their own cases, it’s doable and many have had much success. We would do as much as we can to advise and support you, if you decide to take that route.
If you have any questions please don’t hesitate to ask.
All th best
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