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Hi Yoda,
Thank you for the reasoned perspective, i do share you're outlook on treading the middle ground.
Communication with my ex-wife is only done via writting, so it goes aswell as it that can do!
I would like things to be as ammicable as possible and be right, and unfortunately at present my ex-wife will not communicate any other way.
Currently no response is coming on this issue!
By calculating the truthful payments (i.e. what the girls really stay over) the payments to my ex drop by circa £2,500 per year .... no wonder i'm getting no response :-).
Even if we drop to the next bracket for nights stayed as a compromise it's a £1,450 drop.
These are big money payments to me, that I dont see as saving me money, but as taking potential moneies away from the girls
Bill337,
Thanks so much for the info and advice mate, really means alot.
I know I am in the right and will fight for what is rihgt, not neccessarily what I want.I hope all is still good in your world and kids
hi banana,
all is good thanks. this coming weekend will be my first full weekend with the kids. planned a lovely day out with them and family 🙂
Hi Yoda,
Thank you for the reasoned perspective, i do share you're outlook on treading the middle ground.
Communication with my ex-wife is only done via writting, so it goes aswell as it that can do!
I would like things to be as ammicable as possible and be right, and unfortunately at present my ex-wife will not communicate any other way.
Currently no response is coming on this issue!By calculating the truthful payments (i.e. what the girls really stay over) the payments to my ex drop by circa £2,500 per year .... no wonder i'm getting no response :-).
Even if we drop to the next bracket for nights stayed as a compromise it's a £1,450 drop.These are big money payments to me, that I dont see as saving me money, but as taking potential moneies away from the girls
banana those are big amounts and definitely worth fighting for. its not just about saving money, but taking into account your other financial commitments, mainly being your other child. the whole point of using CMS is so that payments will be fair. i hope this gets sorted out. please keep us updated.
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