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Hi
I recently split with my partner (6months ago) and I’ve been paying childcare direct as payments for maintenance as the mother has told me to.
My question is can she now say she hasn’t received any maintenance and demand it being back paid in arrears?
The amount I pay in childcare is more than I would be paying in maintenance which I don’t have a problem with.
I just don’t want to then be stung later with letters saying I haven’t paid anything yet
Any advice would be great fully received
hi,
if you have been paying your ex as a private arrangement, she could register with Child Maintenance and open a claim. but you won't pay any arrears. if she opens a claim tomorrow, then CMS will work out how much you have to pay from the date she opened the claim. but CMS can be goofy at times. it took them like 3 months to work out what I am supposed to pay, so am paying arrears because of them.
If you are paying by private arrangement, and are happy for that to continue, then make absolutely sure that you do it by bank transfer and that the reference is "Child Maintenance" - that way there is no doubt at all that it is exactly that, and you won't get caught in the same way that Bill did above (and there are plenty of others who have had the same) when the CMS are being inefficient.
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