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Hi fellow dads,
I truly can't believe I'm Here looking for advice, this brings a tear to my eyes just to ask a question.
My now recent x partner, who we have to beautiful heathy children together,
Despite me paying my ex regular monthly payments or should I say my first payment went to her today, I've also agreed to buy clothes etc when needed, , she has now threatening to contact the Csa or CMS if I don't pay more but my question is will she get all of the payment even thou she is on benefit's now as she don't work, or will this go back into the system, ?
Many thanks Jay.
Hi and welcome
I'll move this post to the child maintenance section just because you may get more relevant replies in there, but please feel free to post more about yourself in the welcome section (or any other section you need help on).
To the best of my knowledge, benefits aren't affected by any maintenance you pay, so you don't need to worry about that. However, have you checked the CMS calculator to see how much you are due to pay? Generally, the calculation will be 12% of your gross pay (after pension payments) - you aren't obliged to pay any more than that, including clothes etc, though of course you can do so if you wish.
To be honest, if she's threatening to go to the CMS, it may well be worth you opening a case with the CMS yourself - there's a £20 fee for doing so, but then go onto direct pay (you pay your ex directly) and there are no further charges as long as you keep up the payments. It gives you an element of control back that she currently has, and if circumstances change in the future, it gives you the power to be able to close the case.
Hello Jay2015
In the past if the receiving parent or their partner was receiving Income Support, income-based Jobseeker's Allowance or Employment and Support Allowance and in receipt of child maintenance, their benefits were reduced accordingly.
But on the 12 April 2010 the law on child maintenance changed. This change means that receiving parents who are on benefits can now keep all the child maintenance they receive and it will not affect their benefits.
For more information on all the different ways to set up child maintenance and for a more personalised service, you can visit the Child Maintenance Options website at http://www.cmoptions.org.
The DWP have a sorting out separation web-app that you may find useful. It offers help and support to separating and separated families. The link is: www.dad.info/divorce-and-separation/sorting-out-separation.
Regards
William
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