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Hi - I have recently found out that I am the father of a child, now living in Munich, Germany. I was not in a long term relationship with the mother but I am now being contacted by her local German social service department about child maintenance information. I can find no information about the German equivalent of the CSA process. I have read a little about Reciprocal Enforcement of Maintenance but would be interested to get an insights about the process that I am about to engage with as the Social service department have provided no information about how it works.
Thanks
Don't reply,set up a private arrangement with the mother and send money online.
This will give you more power in seeing your son/daughter
Because the German authorities won't be able to enforce anything with you living here.
Where's the comminication from the mother,no photos of the child,no messages etc?
I am trying to avoid the payment [censored] of legal advice in any of this. Thanks for your help.
It would be better if you can set up an arrangement between yourselves, but if not I think she would need to go through the legal process in Germany and as we have a reciprocal arrangement, the REMO unit would then enforce it here.
Here’s a link to a thread on the forum from a couple of years ago, you might find it useful
https://www.dad.info/forum/child-maintenance/47216-uk-german-child-maintenance-advice-please
All the best
Are you confident the child is yours? Sorry for such a stark question, but if you do have doubts, it's advisable to voice them now, a DNA test would then have to be done as a requirement for maintenance payments to continue, once the results are in.
Thanks for the link and information.
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