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:unsure: My son turned 16 in April. I have had no contact from him or his mother for nearly 2 years, their choice, not mine.
I have heard he gothis grades to be accepted into college. How can you find out if your child goes to college, drops out of college etc or if their circumstances change?
Neither of them reply to any attempts at contact so asking them directly isn't really an option (I already tried)
Any help or information would be appreciated
Hi there
I'm afraid that getting information about a child when they are estranged is very difficult, you could try writing to the college and asking for information,but generally it's up to the mother to keep you updated.
Whilst he is at college, his mother is still entitled to claim child maintenance, the rules are that maintenance can continue until a child is 20, as long as they remain in full time, non advanced education. Full time means more than 12 hours a week and non advanced includes college and some approved apprenticeships, but not Uni.
Thank you. I thought that would be the case. Just wish there was a way that you could find out for sure. Even if she did reply you have to take the answer on trust which is something I don't have in her!
You can try contacting the college yourself, they are obliged to tell you if you have Parental Responsibility.
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