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Hi sorry its a bit of a long one, my son is very disabled, no capacity and needs a lot of care, he is now 19, he was and will be attending a special school untill end of this month, my ex wont give me any info at all about next steps, where he will be what he will be doing ect.
any how had a nil assesement years ago due to coming out of forces on a military/war pension and having no job , came to a private arrangement with the Ex to pay Β£100 a month as i have always supported my son and wanted to continue to do so regardless of what CSA said i should pay, this was then moved to private arrangement as far as the CSA where concerned when they started closing cases a few years ago, got a letter the other week from the csa saying case closed ( i was told it was closed 2 years ago when it moved to private arrangement ! )
Any how thought now is the time as he is 19 to maybe give the money to him instead of the ex ! asked her very politely if i could set up an account for him and pay that direct instead of her ( she keeps hinting he going to another post 16 special school in september but refuses to give me any info , it would apparently be a 2 or 3 days boarding arrangement ) any how she went mental and i mean really mental and now saying if i stop paying her direct she will go back to the CSA get me investigated the whole works , been awake all night worrying as my wife was medical retired from work last week and i only mange the odd day of casual work around taking her back and forward to hospital and looking after her ! so my question is what can i do if anything, can my nasty ex do this ?? please help been googling all night but cant find anything to help me work out what to do next, as i am guessing she is claiming benefits for him as an adult now ?
Hello Dingdong69
As you do not currently have a statutory maintenance case in place, it is up to the two of you to decide the terms of your family-based arrangement. If this includes paying the money to your son and both of you are happy with that, then that is fine.
Maintenance payments are made until a child is 20 if the child is in full-time, non-advanced education. So it sounds as though you are still liable to provide maintenance for your son. Therefore, your ex is entitled to make an application with the Child Maintenance Service if she wishes.
If you would like any further information about the Child Maintenance Service and the other options available to you and to receive a more personalised service, you can contact Child Maintenance Options directly, http://www.cmoptions.org
The Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) have a website, βSorting out separationβ. It aims to make it much easier for separating and separated parents (and childless couples) to find the support they need, when and where they need it, and encourages them to collaborate on a range of issues. The link is https://www.sortingoutseparation.org.uk/
Regards
William
Thanks William, , I hope when she calms down she realises I am not stopping the support never have never will, just frustrating no info being shared so I can target the help to make my son's life more comfortable π seems it will carry on going on her designer bags for another year
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