[Solved] help for expenses on custody days

Generally, you shouldn't need to pay anything on top of csa unless you want to. And if your son would be going to the club anyway of you weren't available to pick him up.

In real terms though, mum can just refuse to pay on the basis she shouldn't be "made to pay for childcare for you."

If you are otherwise available to collect your son at 11.30, can you do that, but stay relatively local until it's time to pick up the older child? I am sure your son would enjoy some one on one time with you while he adjusts to a school setting.

i just cant spend the next year hanging around for 3 and a half hours. its not practical....i have my two kids and my new partner has 3 kids...with 5 kids i dont have any time to do the things i need to do as it is....i have had 5 wonderful years bringing my kids up and spending all my time off with them...i suffer from insomnia and depression and i know it will drive me crazy going out at 8am for drop off....9:30 back home....back for pickup for 11:30....back home (40 mile round trip) then back to pick my daughter up for 3pm. as u can imagine a house with 5 kids takes a lot of work to keep straight as well as shopping and having 2 elderly relatives that require help and support...maybe it sounds selfish to some but i need to have some time to do the things i need to do....i love having my son with me all day at the moment but i cant spend my day driving back and to

i will pay for the days if i need to but just wanted to know my rights as i pay a good amount and my ex left me with another 400 a month in debt....like her car that she had on my credit card then sold when we split...and no i didnt get a penny of that back....we get on ok but she pushes for money all the time as she lives beyond her means....she booked a holiday to turkey then messages me asking if i wanted to contribute....i said I HAVE MY OWN HOLIDAYS TO PAY FOR..my own costs....i have to buy everything she buys...clothes..toys..beds...food etc...this is where i feel some women dont understand that we have expenses too..my ex earns as much as me...claims any benefits and gets 380 from me every month

What's the arrangement at the moment? Do you pick him up for the full day or leave picking him up until you pick your daughter up from school?

I remember a previous member that had a problem with this, it appears to be a grey area, but the CSA did state to him that if it was during his contact time it was up to him to pay. However in the CSA guidelines it states that the calculated amount covers all a paying parent is required to pay.

I'd try and negotiate with the ex, explain that you pay the required amount which is calculated by the CSA and that they state in their guidelines that is all you are required to pay. You could offer to pay half of the fees as a goodwill gesture.

Best of luck

at the moment on the first day my ex drops my daughter off at school and drops my son off at the house as she passes near to go to work and he spends all day with me..the res5 of the days with me i take her to school and pick her up....when he starts school in september if im working through the week my ex will have him in school club every day....we have already agreed it wld be easiser to put him in every day rather than figure out what days i have them due to my shifts. im not trying to dodge my duties but its not made very clear what my rights are. i wouldnt even be asking but i have a lot less money than her and im already struggling to get through each month

funny isnt it..if i had custody like i requested monday to friday then they wld have gone to the school near me and my partner is off work so we wldnt need any childcare at all and no csa wld have been required as i wldnt ask a penny off her...the kids have had 5 houses in 3 years and i have had 1...they system isnt fair and the women think they are hard done too....most of the so called dead beat dads wanted custody and arent given it....i would love to see the tables turned on all of these people who complain and see how hard it is to provide for your children too...run your own house and life...work long hard hours....and pay out a big chunk of their wages rather than receiving it....im sure they wld soon want it back as in most cases its the money thats important to them...my ex wldnt give me custody as she couldnt afford to lose the money i give her.