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I always paid my maintanence on time and it was an agreed amount between. I always made sure it was more than she would have got through the CMS. However she got greedy and wanted more. The CMS got involved and she ended up getting less every month. She then took child care away so I had to arrange a child minder. I was told by the CMS that because I pay maintanence she has to cover the cost of the child care. The issue is that she doesn't so when I come to drop my little boy off they wont allow him to come in as the bill isnt paid. I am not having to pay both maintanence and minder. Whilst the CMS understand they say they can't and wont get involved in making her pay. There obligation is to making sure I pay her. It is all weighted towards her and I dont see that I have any option but to pay it.
Is there anything I can do? A group or advice centre that I could speak to who could get her to stick to her obligations.
Thanks in advanced Gareth
I'm afraid that I don't think there is a lot you can do. She isn't obliged to arrange childcare for your son, so if you need to do so when he's with you, then you can't force her to pay for it I'm afraid. If it's on her time and she won't pay, then can you take him back to her when you're at work? Otherwise, if you are going to arrange childcare and pay for it (if you have no choice) then it's up to you where you arrange it.
i was in this position once luckily my mums a childminder living just 5 minutes away but before i lived alone in a 2bed flat and i ended up renting a room out to a live in nanny who looked after my child when i had to work because i do diffrent shifts every week ,a live in nanny is cheapest way as part of the deal is shes rent free wont cost you a penny only your relationships lol
Hi There,
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As actd has said if the child minder is used by you and she doesn't use them, then there isn't too much that you can do, if your ex also uses the same child minder, then you could arrange with the minder that you will pay them directly for the sessions that you need to use but that you aren't and won't be responsible for any that you ex uses, that would hopefully allow you to drop your son off when you need to and leave your ex in the same boat that you are now, with the minder refusing to allow your son in until they have been paid.
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