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Hi all,
I've been speaking to CSA over the phone for a while now and can't seem to get anywhere. I'm now getting increasingly stressed and it's taking over my and my family's life.
Long story short - split up with my ex about 8 years ago. She cut all the contact with my 2 children dispite me trying everything I can until I couldnt afford anymore.
I have a wife and a 6 year old son.
I have been paying my fair share of CSA payment via direct debit + some arrears I apparently owe, until they have decided to recalculate it all without consulting me and asking me to pay ridiculous amount, that I simply can't afford.
I have tried speaking to them and explaining my situation but just got verbal abuse over the phone to the point that I had to make a complaint.
Everytime I speak to them , they promise to call back next day with a dicision but just keep saying that they can't reduce my arrears on the top of what I'm already paying.
It takes half of my wage and my wife only works part time. I don't know what else to do now !!! Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
Hi and welcome.
You could try speaking to your local MP or CAB, they might be able to help you deal with the CSA.
I'm afraid I don't know much about CM but other members do and our CM Consultant pops on regularly to give advice.
Someone posted on here recently that you can insist on paying arrears over 24 months, and that the CSA will try to insist that this isn't the case, but if you stick to our guns, they will finally concede.
EDIT:
Found it, it was lollyrus - here's the thread, and it's the 5th post down
http://www.dad.info/forum/child-maintenance/44162-child-maintenance-arreas#67648
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