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can anyone help me as I do not have a clue to my rights i have a 4 month old son with my ex partner my name is not on the birth certificate and now she has gone abroad for a while. does any one know what my rights as a father are..
Hi there 🙂
I'm sorry to hear your having problems, unfortunately as you are not on the child's birth certificate you don't have any rights. It's awful I know but you can apply for Parental Responsibility through the courts and this will recognise you as the father. However even with this you have very little say in the day to day decisions although the mother should consult you about things like medical issues and education.
If you wanted to have regular contact with your child when they return to the UK you would need to apply to court for a Contact Order and at that point you could also request what is called a Prohibited Steps Order which might prevent her from moving abroad, although again the courts may well allow the mother to do so.
So even though i have not seen my son for 4 months due to hospitalisation and paying £140 for maintanace and a furth £100 on top of that for milk and nappies i do not have a say or any rights what so ever
I'm sorry but yes thats the case...Without Parental Responsibility you dont have a say. 😡
The CSA dont require you to have PR though to take money from you....Its stacked against the father generally and it sucks! Paying maintenance and having contact are two separate issues and paying maintenance doesnt entitle you to contact.
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