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hi all im sean, after many disputes and arguments with the ex over child payments/Csa ect I cant help but feel like us dads get an extremely raw deal!
I work 6 days a week 9 till 6, I have my own rented flat and my own bills and loans ect, I have my 2 children 3 days/nites a week and the ex has them 4 days a week now when i have my children its my responsibility to feed them, water them, warm them, clothe them supply school meals for them and pay for a child minder to get them from school on my days while im at work, now I have no problems with that at all as a father its my job to do all that, however my ex on the other hand who has my kids 1 evening more than me a week, claims every benefit going and works a part time bar job plus does hairdressing on the side and still demands £140 a month from me! I struggle through every month watching every penny making everything last until the next pay day while she goes on all inclusive trips to spain, weekend trips to Amsterdam, eats take aways most nights and spends most weekends in a pub! I cant help but feel like im getting a raw deal here im the one who works hard an gets no benefits...yet shes the one who seems to benifit!? I never have any money to take the kids away or out for the day which id love to do, yet she takes them to see one direction, wwe wrestling and holidays cant help but feel like my kids see her as the better parent because of it... :/ sigh... still I live in hope of a lottery win.
she'd have that lottery win assessed as part of the claim if over £65k 🙁
The problem is that even with this system, some mothers prevent overnight stays because it would cost them in maintenance to allow it. If the financial incentive was greater, they'd be even more likely to do so.
I just dont see that its fair that she gets all the benifits, I have to pay all the same things she does an am entitled to nothing....I have to pay her maintenance because she has the kids 4 evenings a month more than me...she doesn't pay me maintenance when they're in my care....I think the whole system sucks I could understand it if I was a rubbish dad and didnt really bother with the kids but thats far from the case....my world revolves around them :/
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