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Hi there, I wonder if you can help. I'm not sure if this is normal or not. I'm in a very difficult position. Ive separated from my partner and although I see my son, shes relocated and hes dropped off by a go between so I don't actually know where he lives exactly although he now lives 120 miles from me.
Relations are so strained that despite having no reason to not tell me where they live, she probably wont, Can you guys help me getting maintenance to her as i'm keen to pay for my son.
Thanks
Hi
Have you considered setting the money aside in a bank account each week for him until this is resolved or you could pay it directly into her bank account voluntarily, you don't need her address to do either of those.
This link should tell you how much you have to pay....
Hello Brokendad
As mentioned by 1626, you can set up maintenance payments without having an address for your ex-partner.
One of the ways to set up maintenance is a family-based arrangement which is an agreement between the two parents without the involvement of the Government or legal system. Although not legally enforceable, this type of arrangement tends to work better and last longer than others, as it is something that both parents have agreed to. There are various ways to set up payments which require little or no contact between you, such as a standing order or e-money transfer.
Another option is the Child Maintenance Service who are the Government’s statutory maintenance service and can calculate maintenance leaving parents to arrange payment between themselves, or collect payments and pay to the parent/main carer.
There is also a Consent Order (Minute of Agreement which differs form a Consent Order), which is an arrangement agreed through the courts.
For full information about these options, you can contact Child Maintenance Options, http://www.cmoptions.org.
If the receiving parent does not want to receive maintenance payments, there is nothing in place to force them to do so. As also mentioned previously, you could put the money aside for if circumstances change in the future.
The Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) have a new web application, 'Sorting out Separation'. It aims to make it much easier for separating and separated parents (and childless couples) to find the support they need, when and where they need it, and encourages them to collaborate on a range of issues. The link is www.cmoptions.org/en/sortingoutseparation/index.asp.
Regards
William
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