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My ex has finally landed herself a job, after being out of work for a year and a half. Unfortunately she has no one round to help look after my son, so he will be placed in breakfast and after school club every day.
My ex is now demanding I pay half of these costs, bearing in mind I am already paying for his sports clubs and child maintenance weekly payments.
If I don't pay she is threatening all sorts and reckons I will be in for a lot more expenses if we went down the legal route. Which I think and hope is just BS.
Anyone had a similar experience and how did you overcome this obstacle?
Thanks in advance...
Hi,
Are you paying her through the child maintenance service? If so then your regular payments should be fine, and you don't have to pay any more than that. When kids are in her care, she is responsible for costs.
- Hi, thanks for the reply, thats exactly what I thought and yep got a direct weekly payment set up through CMS. Some of the threats that are made are just vile, how can they get away with this!!
It's better to ignore any threats. Can let her know maintenance payments are managed by CMS and she can contact them about any queries.
Hi
The sports clubs you pay for, are these when child is with you or ex? If with ex then she may argue re paying for breakfast clubs too..
Agree with Bill that if ex isn't happy and wants you to pay more to direct her to CMS to see what they say.
Re the legal route threats, do you currently have a court order re child?
If your ex does decide to go down that route then there is plenty of guidance on here re how to navigate things. Hopefully she is just bluffing and it's all bluster..
All the best.
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