Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
Hello. I'm sure you all hear this one a lot but ive scoured all internet searches, rang countless solicitors and I can't seem to find answers that help me.
Long story short. I hurt her ego once I confirmed I knew some bad things that she has done. She is using a 14 minute phone call and a 15 hour response limit before she decided to put a claim in for CMS.
Now, currently I live with my mother since moving out of the family home. I have the children 3 nights a week. She has them 4.
I work 5 days a week. She works 2 days.
I want to obviously find a place to live for me and my children. MY monthly income is around 1500. for a 2 bedroom rental and after bills. I'm probably left with around 300-400 pounds. I also need a car that I don't have yet.
She is earning 1200 and getting 1800 universal credit. Therefore, shes left with around 1500 in her bank after all bills etc are done.
So Whilst I only have 350, let's say. She is asking that I pay (according to the calculator) about £150 to her each month. That would put me down to living on about £200 each month and she will have £1650.
I can't for the life of me understand how this is fair at all? She's also stated in an email that I will need to pay 50% for one of my childrens eduction, on top of CMS and I will also need to pay for clothing out of my own pocket too. I understand shes wrong here as CMS covers those things.
But is there any avenue that I can take so that I can keep my money which i will need to care for our children! me on £200 and her on £1650 - and I have them for 3 nights a week just seems preposterous.
Any help or advice will be greatly appreciated.
hi,
can you confirm if your paying her through CMS or you have private arrangement? and paying 50% for education, is that university?
She has refused sorting it out between ourselves. We had a 14 minute conversation wherein I agreed to pay 50% of our child's education. She is only 3. She gets reimbursed for 85% of the cost and i agreed to split the left over 15% at 50/50. It is probably around 50 or 70 pounds.
She hung up and asked me to confirm CMS payment by tomorrow. At 4pm on that day, she made a claim to CMS.
I have yet to give her any money.
Thank you for your interest.
ok, as CMS have taken over, your private arrangement stops. better to wait for CMS to write to you with a payment plan.
In answer to your original question, now CMS is involved, there is nothing you can do, I'm afraid, to keep any money back, you will have to pay what CMS state. However, anything beyond this is not compulsory, so money for clothes etc is covered by the CMS payment.
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.