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Hi
After finding out my ex partner was stealing from me, I told her I was leaving her and she said I should take out son with me as she doesn’t want him and will put him up for adoption. He is 19 months old.
So, I took him with me and to cut a long story short, the social services said he would be better with me but she has told them we agreed for me to have him until September.
Since then she has applied for CMA and I was due to send her the amount at the end of this month.
I rang CMA and they said I should open a Child Benefit claim as this is the only way they can stop her from getting the payments. So I have done so last month and so today when I spoke with DWP they said they have suspended her benefits. I have just got off the phone to CMA and they said they will close the application and a case worker will be in touch with me due to her benefits being suspended.
I am fearful that the paperwork won’t be completed before the payment is due, which is in 2 days time.
I am also fearful they will still come for my money because technically I am not in receipt of child benefits.
Thirdly , I don’t know what to do moving forward as she is very sneaky and manipulative.
Can I please get some advice.
Hi,
I suggest you call CMS again and ask them should you still make payment that's due in 2 days
@bill337 thank you, I will call them first thing in the morning.
The advice worker and she did not get any money.
now she’s written a non- molesation report and I have to attend court.
and the report is all lies!
I can’t believe how low she is willing to go
Hi,
Sorry to hear. Is child still living with you? Sounds like you may need to formalize your arrangements by getting a court order for child arrangements. Feel free to get in touch for advice.
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