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Thank you, that is very helpful. I don’t have a court order, I have applied, but my child is an older teen so it won’t even be valid for that long. I’m not even sure it was worth submitting, by the time I get it, my child will be less than a year off 16!
I’ve applied for the child benefit, I’ve also appealed my mandatory consideration and I’ve contacted my MP. I made another thread about ring doorbell footage, which I am going to continue collating and then I will send that in with my appeal. I don’t see how a judge can reject ring doorbell footage, which clearly shows my child coming and going for 50% of the month!
I’m also not paying as I understand I won’t get any of the money back from my ex, but at least have a chance if it goes to collect and pay and they forcibly take it, despite me sending them a ton of proof that my ex is lying.
I am in dire straits here, I was with my EX for 16 years, in that time I have had two heart attacks a shoulder injury lost my house and business which i was in partnership with her. I have spoken to CAB and variety of other institutes. 7 years into our relationship she went head on with going to church and after our second daughter was born she wanted to marry me in a church. After looking at many options we live together in the same house separately.
During the the latter years of the relationship she said she was not with me but will live with me as she loved her faith more than me and i could find another woman, a year later I met someone. I saw her on and off but did not feel comfortable as she was already married. Do I still have parental responsibility ?
In the end I called it a day and few month (and went back to my partner but that was a bad move), after she rang to say she was pregnant, I did not agree to having children nor did I discuss this with her and for years with her husband she was trying to get pregnant. She had her embryos frozen (She sold these) as he was impotent in some ways due to his use of steroids. We discussed this including termination and she insisted on having the child. She gave her her husbands surname and I hardly got to see her. I think I was setup with this pregnancy.
When I did it was for a few hours and all of a sudden CSA contacted me to make payments towards this child who is lovely girl.
How do I deal with this as I had no parental responsibility for 5 years and when I do meet her says she has her dad and I am her second dad.
To make matters worse I contine to get begging messages for money but she has just spent 5k on having her teeth done in Turkey. For the record I am Indian and she is Russian
HELP PLEASE
@dadmina Hi, sorry to hear about your situation. If you think there may be a slight chance that this child is not biologically yours, you can ask CMS for a paternity/DNA test. you might want to seek that certainty, before you commit to paying maintenance in the long-term. legally you have parental responsibility for all the children that are biologically yours, and if your named on the birth certificate.
@dadmod2 She refused to let me have my name on the birth certificate she used her husbands name - does that matter i know the child is mine
@dadmina ok in that case you are expected to pay child maintenance. take close look at their paperwork and make sure the amounts they want you to pay are correct. as she involved CMS, I suggest you don't pay much attention to her requests for money. You can politely ask her to contact CMS, as they have taken over and payments are child-related only.
If she is denying access to child, you could consider mediation, and court as a last resort.
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