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Hi All,
Ive written elsewhere on the board regarding my separation (In length lol)
Now, I was humble in my posts, and seemingly about to be humbled more....
I don't the difference in Separation and Legal Separation (and if that matters)
But My wife who is a part time copper earns £1300 after tax still, is claiming she is going to be £189 a week benefits for my 2 girls (3,7) and one gets £57 a week DLA (diabetes) that is 2400-2500 quid
I get 1800 a month working full time, and will have to rent a 2 bed flat/house (so i can have my girls) anywhere within 30 - 40 miles from my children is 6-800 pounds a month, standard bills are 300, car insurance , car tax, then petrol and food maybe (for 1) 350 making 1450 and that is being tight on estimates, the CSA would expect me to pay her 310 (using their calc)
making me have 40 quid a month as my own, and putting her on 2810, and being part time............as new CSA guidelines don't take and benefits they will get into consideration or if she is making more than me.
I'm left scratching my head....ive always made sure my girls were spoilt on things (stupid me) but surely something is wrong with this....
Head -> Wall -> Me
Hi There,
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This comes up a lot, the way the system works it doesn't look at the income going into the resident parents, only the income that the no resident parent earns, whether it's right or wrong, it's the system we are stuck with and many dad's are struggling while mothers are able to claim benifits, work and then also recieve a percentage of the ex partners wage meaning they have much more money than the ex. That said the resident parent does have the children to support and clothe, which we all know isn't cheap. The CMS payment is all that legally has to be paid, so anything extra that is paid to the resident parent is voluntary.
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On the flip side of your case, there are also many resident parents that are left with very little to live on, while the non resident parent lives in luxury as they are able to play the system, so they pay the minimum that is set through CMS and nothing more, there are always two sides to everything I guess.
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Not much help in my post I know, just a my view from seeing both sides of the issue.
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GTTS
Hello Scotty300
If you have a family-based arrangement in place, there are no set rule to determine how much you have to pay. It is up to the two of you to decide. A family-based arrangement can include contributions other than monetary ones, for instance, childcare.
On the Child Maintenance Options website, http://cmoptions.org, there are lots of tools and guides which are designed to help parents who would like to set up a family-based arrangement.
If the Child Maintenance Service are used, they do the calculation for you. If you think that you have special expenses which are linked to keeping up reasonable contact with your children, you can apply for a variation. The Child Maintenance Service would then make a decision on whether that would make a different to the amount you have to pay. You can view detailed information about how the Child Maintenance Service work out their calculations, including variations, here, https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/325219/how-we-work-out-child-maintenance.pdf
If you would like any further information and to receive a more personalised service, you can contact Child Maintenance Options directly.
Regards
William
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