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Please view and sign this attached e-Gov e-petition regarding the requirement for maintenance payments to be made even when 50/50 care and equal financial requirements are being fulfilled. My sons mother demands that I pay for half of everything and still demands CSA payments on top, even though she earns far in excess of myself. Effectively she is reducing the money available for our son while he is with me and does so not to maintain our son but for reasons of control and spite.
http://epetitions.direct.gov.uk/petitions/66145
There are thousands of families in this situation which the current CSA rules cause undue and unnecessary financial burden.
Thank you for your time.
Signed but it looks like it ends this evening only 3 signatures - maybe post of legal board
I have applied for residency but may end up with shared care and 100% know will be in the same position
Thank you. I opened today for a year. Please pass it round your friends and colleagues, and post on facebook and twitter pages if you have them. Your help to fight this ridiculous rule is greatly appreciated.
Ah, Hi Keith
I posted on another thread as to whether it's possible to re-submit the petition as it's a bit late on here to publicise it now. What you have suggested seems to be an ideal solution - basically just raising the priority of certain cases to be transferred, so it wouldn't even embarrass any politicians. I don't know how ePetition works - are you able to do another? I can't see anyone on here would disagree with what you are suggesting.
I'm not a dad but I'll gladly sign that petition because I'm in the same situation with my evil ex partner. I look after our daughter half of the time yet CSA said I have to pay him. How unfair is that!? I'm absolutely fuming! 😡
Thank you! Since the time of submission of this post, my son has seen how his mother has behaved and also how his step-father has been manipulating him and the situation to their advantage. As a result he now lives with me and sees his mum when he wants, usually about 2 nights a week. Still CSA and child benefit however is paid to mother! I have been told to pay her but refuse to do so. I am securing the funds in case a court directs me, but currently I have to wait for child benefit to investigate, which they wont do for the first 3 months due to backlogs! She refuses to accept that she no longer deserves to receive CSA/CBA but continues to defraud the government and try to steal money out of my pocket which my son deserves here with me! My heart goes out to everyone who is wronged by this faulty system! Mum or Dad! On a positive note, my son seems much happier now!
If this can be moved or highlighted elsewhere then I would appreciate that. I am not sure that it will now benefit me, but if this prevents others from the stress we have been through then it needs a chance to be heard. Thanks.
I think the CBA are at fault here and I would insist that they deal with the change of circumstances, if they refuse then I would make an appointment to see your MP.
If you haven't already done so, I would also change his address with GP,school, dentist etc. as this will back up your claim.
The trouble with the CSA here is that they pay whichever parent receives the CB! The system is so flawed! The changes to the child maintenance system, which comes under the newly formed CMS does state that where there is a 50/50 arrangement that no maintenance is now payable, it's proving that when one parent refuses to be truthful about it that causes the problem.
Good luck with it.
I have signed the petition and strongly support you. NannyJane is right in that CSA will pursue the parent that does not get Child Benefit as a debtor, and in 95% of cases this will be the mother. Ho hum.
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