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My ex partner is now pregnant with her new partner, we agreed to a mutual agreement when it came to child maintenance payments. But now she is pregnant to her new partner, both don't work. So my issue is that the payments I pay for our child is just going to get spent on items for the new born as both don't have a regular income, apart from income support/ universal credit. Can I reduce the payments because she is now expecting a child with someone else or does it not effect it in the Child Maintenance Service regulations?
You can reduce the maintanence if you agree between yourselves, but if you question this, all she will do is go to the CMS, and they will not take into account that she is pregnant, you will still pay the same amount.
The best thing to do is to get yourself on the CMS calculator and work out how much you will be paying via them. If you are already paying more than what the calculator comes back with then look to adjust accordingly. If you are paying less than the CMS then I would stay quiet.
This is one of the problems with maintenance, there is no liability on the mother to prove where your money is spent.
Thanks for your reply. I pay 2 mutual agreements in total (different mums ).
The other mum A, gets less than the mum B, the one in question - as I get to see, my child from mum A every weekend where as its every 2nd with my child from Mum B. So I suggested, that the mum in question, gets the same amount as mum A but I purchase clothes or anything else that's required with the difference. But that got shot down in flames.
Sounds like Mum B is being very unreasonable and wants as much as she can get out of you.
I would still work out the CMS payments. If the CMS payments show that you should be paying Mum B less than you already are, open up a case with them. Please bare in mind though that they may use last years, or even the years before tax figure. So if you earnt alot in wither of those years, expect it to be higher.
Yep, she always has been. I have contacted CMS in the past, and they would have to bring Mum A into it as well and make it one case rather than just one separate case, where she would get paid a little less as well as Mum B would. I have no issues with Mum A as my child from that relationship is in there teens now plus she isn't as complicated as Mum B is.
I have told Mum B that if she requires anything for our child when the maintenance for her has been spent on other stuff, not to turn to me as I have already paid my way.
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