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Hi
This is my first post and I'd be grateful for any well informed advice on a specific point. I have shared care of my child, she spends 156 nights with me and I pay maintenance to my ex.
Up till now I've also paid for my daughter's clothing when she's with me. My specific question is whether my ex should be paying for / providing my daughter's clothing and shoes when my daughter's staying with me? I'm happy to continue paying for some clothing but just want to know if my maintenance payment is meant to cover clothes for both our residences.
Many thanks for your help!
Unfortunately this is a grey area, some do supply clothes when the child spends time with the other parent, but that's generally when there are no issues between the parents and they are working together. Where there is ill feeling between separated parents, things like sending clothes can become a bone of contention, often used to get back at the other parent.
Maintenance isn't strictly to be spent on the child, it also covers anything that contributes to the child's upbringing, which can include rent and bills.
Thanks Mojo - it is unfortunate! I've asked my ex to supply clothes (or agree a reduction in payments) - if she refuses do you have any experience of next steps other parents have tried?
There aren't any official steps, when users here have had to deal with this they generally keep sets of clothes/pjs at their home to use when the kids stay, putting them back in the clothes they came in when they're returned back.
The best one size fits all would be you have clothes at your house and she has clothes at hers you pick up the kid dress her as you wish send her back in the same clothes she came to you in.
Maintenance is just for your ex's house you have to pay for everything when she's in your time thays why the amount you pay is based on overnights
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