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Hi I worked out how much I needed to for maintenance by going on the CSA site and decided to pay a bit more than what was suggested. But I still also contribute or pay the full cost of other stuff ie back to school stuff I split with her always paying a bigger share than her plus other things she says they need from time to time but every few month she manages to start an argument about and the fact that I’m not giving her enough. So I just wanted to know if I’m obligated to contribute on top of the maintenance. Thanks in advance
damian.
hi,
if you were to pay her through the Child Maintenance service, under child support law you only need to pay the amount they calculate, nothing more, nothing less. if your paying your ex through a private arrangement, it's pretty much down to you and what both of you can agree on.
@bill337 ok thanks for your reply we have a private agreement as I thought instead of paying CSA I’d rather my kids get the money but as is the case why we split she never satisfied the more I give the more she wants. I’m actually thinking now of going down the CSA route as I don’t want be constantly arguing with her.
I would try to avoid going to CMS. It is a minefield. It looks like your ex is half decent. Mine doesn't let me see my son. I have spent thousands trying to get access and I still have to pay her child maintenance.
@damianb113 if you can keep to the private arrangement, then that would be better than CMS. CMS will make you pay more each time you get pay rise, work overtime or get bonus. but can understand if you go down that route to avoid stress and arguments.
I wouldn’t say half decent more like if she could give them to more she would happily do so it’s all about money and control with her. I don’t mind spending the money on my kids but the things is she never satisfied or appreciate any thing I do. On top of the maintenance money in July I gave and extra £300 for back to school and she still moaning. I really don’t lm ow what to do for the best. @ edpacket sorry to hear you don’t see you kids mate hope things will change in the near future I can’t how hard it would if I didn’t see my kids.
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