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So I have been paying child maintenance for the last 12 years via my salary pay from my employer.
They announced that this was to stop and transfer across to direct pay into my ex account
Ive paid everything i should have upto and including may and then was told to start direct pay on 1st july
My ex is now saying she hasnt had her payment for June, and i need to pay it or she will take me to court, although i havent been asked to pay it by CMS
It turns out she was supposed to contact them and let them know, but she didnt and they are saying its too late to pay.
It was / and still is a nightmare with her, where do i stand legally ?
Hi there
As long as you've complied with the CMS you shouldn't be held to account. How can she take you to court? Unless it's as a small claims, which would probably cost her as much as she would receive, and she has no guarantee of success.
Have you spoken to the CMS, I would ask them to put it in writing that you have done all that has been asked of you and that there are no arrears.
Alternatively you could just pay the calculated amount into her bank account to cover June. It might turn the nightmare into just a bad dream.
Best of luck
Definitely try to get it in writing from CMS. Have they said that the first payment in July is to cover June also?
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