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Hi,
Could someone give me some advice here.
I have a disabled daughter who attends special needs school. She is now 18 and will leave school for good in July this year. I have a family based agreement in place. There have been no issues with that over the last 8 years.
Effective this week my daughter will go in to full time funded care 3 nights. It's at a specialist bungalow which looks amazing and should be great for her. If she settles she will be going every week.
Under a family based agreement is it unreasonable for me to reduce the payment by 3/7 as my ex partner will not be caring for her during he time at the care bungalow.
Thank you
I know CMS won't get involved in this, but with special needs, then the courts can still rule, so it's probably a matter of agreeing with your ex. Is there any cost to her for the nights spent at the bungalow?
Thanks for your reply. I know the CMS wont get involved as my daughter is now over 18 and my ex may need to go to court if I reduced payments. I Also understand that when it comes to special needs child transitioning to adult services it can be complicated
The care is fully funded by adult services as she now over 18. There is no cost to my ex or myself.
There is going to be a big row once she finishes school and I stop paying £1300 per month!.
Thanks
This is my opinion only, but I would be inclined to say (in writing) that you are reducing the payments accordingly, but will consider any figures she can provide to show why you need to be paying more. It might be worth paying for a one off consultation with a solicitor for advice on what you might have to pay if it did go back to court.
Thank you
My thoughts exactly. Trying to find a solicitor who understands this complex matter is difficult, along with any case studies.
A letter is defintely the right thing to do , after all if its not written down it doesn't exist......
Its my daughters first week at the bungalow, so I will make sure she is settled over the next 2-3 weeks send take it from there.
Thanks again
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