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Hi
My solicitors are useless, I am speaking to another to transfer my case to them. We are in court for a child’s arrangements order (I started the case) to sort out when my daughter spends time with who.
I have just been forwarded an email from my solicitors that my 2 year old daughters mother (never married) has sent to them.
I earn over £3000 a week, the child maitnence agency can only calculate incomes up to £3000, if she wants more she would need to apply for a top up order. It’s 12% on the first 800 and 9% on the following 2200. I currently pay her £1200 a month and pay my daughters nursery fees of £450 a month.
She lives in a property owned by her mother. She is now stating that her mum needs to sell the house as she is emigrating.
I own the property I live in as well as 6 other properties which I rent out. Will I be expected to buy her a home because I have the financial means to do so and own other properties? She can’t live in one of the properties I own as they’re up north and she’s 200 miles away.
She’s demanding that I buy a property for her and my daughter to live in until she is 18 (16 years) that will then revert back to me. She’s also demanding 12% of my first weekly £800 and 9% of the remainder without the upper limit cma currently applies, this would mean I would be giving her £920 a week.
She isn’t working, she’s in her final year at university if that’s relevant.
She has told my solicitor if I do not agree or try to compromise with her then she will be making an application for a schedule 1 financial provision for children.
If it goes to court is she likely to be awarded this?
Should I try to reason with her/give in or let her take it to court?
Hi there
You may find this article of interest.
http://www.familylawweek.co.uk/site.aspx?i=ed143067
If you decide not to play ball you could see yourself paying out a lump sum and providing a housing fund... it could be costly.
Best advice is to get some good legal advice, but my personal opinion is that if you can afford to settle outside of court and reach an acceptable compromise, that may be the way to go.
Perhaps if you agree to the housing issue, you may be able to negotiate with her on the amount of maintenance she is currently demanding... maybe meeting her in the middle. You currently pay around £425 a week she wants £920, offer her £650... just a thought. If possible, you would want some kind of clean break order, so that she can't come after you for more after settlement.
All the best
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