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Hi,
Bit of a strange one this but i'm hoping someone can give some advice.
My 16 yr old has moved out to live with her boyfriend and is now pregnant, not ideal but it happens.
Luckily shes moved in with his parents and i get on with them so i know she is being looked after.
Me and the EX had a family agreement for maintenance but i was starting to question if should pay the maintenance to his parents as they are now caring for her and its meant to be for help in the day to day care of my daughter.
My EX has now decided to make a formal application to the CMS, i have told them she was no longer living there but I've been told as shes still receiving the child benefit for her it has to go to her.
I think she's done this to make sure i keep paying her and can't pay it to my daughter or the family shes living with.
I am certain she wont pass it onto the family looking after my daughter as she hates the family shes moved in with.
How does this work, if shes not living there, then why should my ex get her child maintenance.
This isn't fair on my daughter or the family looking after her.
I'm not 100% on this, might be worth checking with CMS, but when your daughter starts claiming child benefit in her own right, your liability might end. You ex could persuade your daughter not to claim, I suppose, and instead pay her the same (or more) out of the maintenance you pay her.
It also depends on what happens when the baby is born - if she leaves education, then in theory your liability should also end.
This might be something that Citizens Advice can help with. You could try contacting your local branch
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