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Hi first post not sured if i posted in correct section but need advice asap
My ex has now decided to stop me from seeing my kids, as i said i cant afford to have them twice this month due to xmas and his birthday coming up, she pretty much said obvouisly your not bothered about them. I am but i needed to get them birthday and xmas presents too. So not only has she stop me seeing them, cut me off from ringing them too. I been looking into a court order which seems a good option for me. My only concern says you need mediation first before consider it, 2 problems we dont really get on she lives other side of country. We had mediation before when social workers were involved,, it lasted about 2 weeks, then she went back to her old ways. is there anyway of skipping the mediation part?
Or has anyone been through this and have experience of whats to come
sadly not im afraid as all courts ask that you attend mediation 1st to sort the problems before coming to court
It may be worth telephoning your meditation centre and asking them for advice and see what they say
But please be aware, the process in court is a lengthy one at the best of times, but because of the distance you live they may be able to order that she meets you halfway if it is causing you financial distress
Hi do i contact mediation centre, near to were i live, or where my ex lives?
I would contact a mediator locally and explain the problem with the distance between you and ask for advice.
You will have to apply to the court nearest your ex, which will also prove more difficult for you, I doubt they would agree to meeting halfway but you can try asking, they can only say no.
Perhaps you could try writing to your ex and explaining the difficulties you're going throughwith the travel aspect, explain that it's not pfair to punish the children by denying them contact with you, as it's their right to have you in their lives and ask her to reconsider.
All the best
Hi just a quick update, unfortunately things havent got much better, I have finally got appointment for mediation must be wrong time of the year as i had to wait over a month. I want to start court proceding pretty much straight away, how long does whole process take after mediation as now she saying i cant have my children over school holidays, which is about the only time i can as im usually at work. Also do i need to take any thing with me for Mediation as i presumming there give me the form i need for court.
If it looks as though mediation won't achieve anything, then you can ask them to sign the forms, you might need to have a couple of sessions to show you tried, but see what the mediator says.
Due to distance, you 'might' be able to persuade the mediator to stamp the form for you.
Has your ex agreed to attend mediation?
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