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hi i am just trying to get some info on what my rights are with csa....i am happy paying 380 a month to my ex...never been an issue...and i have them 3 days out if the 5 im off work due to shifts. she has moved the kids 20 miles away from me....my youngest has started school and its not financially viable to do 120 miles a day back and two as he finnishes at 11:30 but my daughter finnishes school at 3pm...so i now have to put him in after school club until 3pm when i can pick them both up...so i now have a cost of 12.50 a day for childcare...can i get a reduction in csa payments as i have extra costs involved in having contact with my kids....i am also looking into reductions for fuel cost...i know this can be done with a variation form....im not a bad father like most on here...my ex earns more than me...gets 380 from me and i still have them when i can as she didnt want me to have custody which wld have given them a more stable life as she has already moved schools 3 times and mived them to 4 houses....i just want to know what my rights are too as the other parent always shouts about their rights while we keep quiet and do as we should...thank you
so just to clear...i still travel 80 miles on a school day....its either do another 40 for a round trip or pay for the childcare...either way what are my options and what can i get reductions for.....i asked my ex if she could pay the last day as i drop them off at 9am and she picks them up which to me seems like they are out of my custody at 9am...maybe im wrong...but she wont pay for that...thats fair enough but i am in the gutter while she has a wonderful life with a detached house..new car...clothes...nights out drinking etc....i think the least we can do is have a little understanding that the 2nd parent is struggling much more to provide the clothes...food...beds...shoes...etc in some cases...i really believe the receiving parents wages should be taken into account too as some people need less help than others
Hi There,
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As far as I am aware you wouldn't be able tp claim any reduction due to the after school club but I may be wrong, but when you drop them off aat school on the last morning you have them you are right you aren't responsible for the club that day as it's down to your ex to collect at what ever time she needs too and if she decides to use the club then that should be her costs not yours.
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