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His I am new here.
I have a son who is 19 in June, I paid willingly towards his upkeep from the day his mother and I separated, until I got remarried, she then set the CSA on me, they recalculated the amount I was to pay at £1.50 a week more than I was paying so I wasn't far out.
Unfortunately I have had no contact with my son for about 7 years now, despite numerous court orders, she started making false allegations against me, abduction when he was with me on a court ordered visit, threats to kill which I proved were false, anyway I couldn't get contact.
She has now withdrawn the CSA application and the case has been closed, but due to information that I have found out I have more than a suspicion that I have still been paying the CSA when my son had left full time education.
I don't know yet if his mother was still receiving family allowance or whatever they call it these days.
Has any one got any advice please, I have contacted the CSA but I am not sure that they will follow up what I have told them.
If I have overpaid I really want the money back, how do I achieve this please
hi, unfortunately, you won't be able to get the money back via the CSA as they have only acted on the information that was available to them at the time. The only chance you might have would be to sue your ex through the small claims court, but you'd need watertight evidence to have any chance at that at all, and even then I don't know that your chance of success would be too high.
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