[Solved] Csa help

Hi There,
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My understanding is that you can pay extra into your pension, I wonder if you were told that they wouldn't accept this as you maybe said it was to decrease the amount you pay (don't know how your conversation went though)
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I would follow what CSA has said and not pay your ex anything until you have a new calculation, and maybe call again and speak with someone else with regards to pension.
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GTTS

I agree with GTTS if you've suggested that you would look to increase your pension to reduce your maintenance payments they would view that as purposeful avoidance and I could see them rejecting that.

As long as your child is old enough, there's no reason why he can't stay overnight with you and you can start the process to get this sorted out. Your first step would be to attend mediation, you would make an appointment and go along to discuss the issues and what you would like to happen, the mediator would then contact your ex and ask her to attend.

If mediation fails the mediator would then sign the form to enable you to apply for a Child Arrangements Order where you would be asking for your child to spend regular weekends with you. Many dads do this without the huge costs of a solicitor, it's doable and the court fee for an application is a manageable £215.

It's worth thinking about...all the best.

I would say that it depends on how much you intend to pay into a pension - if it's a reasonable amout, then they should accept that as you are correct that you should be able to set money aside for your retirement (the government are encouraging it these days), but there is no set figure as to what is reasonable. I would certainly question their decision regarding this - they have rules to follow and you are abiding by those rules, and should continue to do so. If you were to put too much away, then your ex could (rightly) go for a variation on diversion of income possibly, in which case it's down to a tribunal.

Thanks all I'm still waiting to find out how much I have to pay maintenance to the ex. They just keep asking for pay slips so it's been going on for a while now. Anyways update about the solicitors we where referred to mediation and she didn't turn up so they signed the paper work to apply for a court order so she received the paper work yesterday and now she has stopped all contact with my son until it's resolved through court. I seen her yesterday so I followed her for 2 mins to talk face to face for her to pull up next to a police officer and claimed that I had been harassing her and that there's been domestic violence involved. Once I spoke to the officer he said all she kept saying was that I've abused her whilst in the relationship and he said with her not making any reports there's not a lot she can do. By the end of the conversation me and the officer had he said he hopes I can get the contact that I wanted and sorry for wasting my time. So I messaged her today asking if I am still seeing my son and she said no not until everything is sorted through court. Is there anything I can do to get some contact before it goes to court? As court is a month and a half away. Thanks

Hi there

I'm sorry to hear this, it very common for angry exs to resort to this kind of behaviour, once their control is threatened.

Unfortunately there isn't anything you can do to restart contact before the hearing, You could try writing to her and remind her that it is your child that is suffering from suspension of contact and that any ill feeling between you shouldn't be visited on your child in this way, perhaps suggest using a trusted family member to facilitate contact in the meantime. Keep it non threatening, friendly but formal, keeping a copy and proof of postage.

It's generally best to ask for an interim order for contact on the application form, that way the court should be prepared to discuss it. If you haven't mentioned it on your application form you might like to consider writing to the court and asking for it to be considered at the first hearing.

Best of luck