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Hi,
I have a child arrangements order in place since 2017 which details what overnight stays I should have with my children. The CSA have previously used this order to calculate overnight stays. I have just logged onto my CSA account and my ex has changed the overnight stays to zero with the CSA, admittedly I have not seen my children for 2 years because she refuses to make them available, I am unable to contact them because I have been blocked and my family are also unable to get in touch. I have not been to Court to rectify this as it would be too detrimental to the childrens' health as she puts untold psychological pressure on the kids in order to get what she wants. I've spent tens of thousands of pounds going to court in the past and always come off worse so have lost all confidence in them.
My question is, even though there is an ongoing child arrangements order (which has not been set aside at the court by my ex) can the CSA just take her word for it that overnight stays are no longer happening? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Hi,
Unfortunately even if court order is in place, if CMS become aware that the overnight stays are not happening, then they act on that and recalculate payments.
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