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I pay CSA for one daughter that I have not seen in 6 years. Last year I was found to have a malignant tumour on my left kidney, both were removed during major surgery and I have the all clear. I informed my ex wife politely via email to put the info on my daughters doctors notes. She replied by wishing me the best and reminded me that when I signed EVERYTHING over on divorce in 2007 there was a critical illness policy and there would be a claim. Thinking she was being nice i HELPED her to claim, i was helpful throughout. January of this year I rang the insurance company to find she was paid out £127,000 in December. I emailed her and asked her if she was doing the decent thing and going halfs...NO. She told me that she would have got it if I had died so what was my problem. She then later said that it would go to my daugthers (my eldest is 21, she changed her surname at 16 and doesnt have anything to do with me). Twice I have sent letter asking to show me the proof that my daughers have received £63,500 each and twice I have had the police called on me. If I ask her again if my daughters have that money I will be interviewed and charged for harassing.
My youngest daughter who i pay CSA for told me in a recent letter that I deserved to have the cancer. She is 15 this year and I will be paying CSA possibly until shes 19.
Hi there and welcome
I am so sorry that this has happened...I find it unbelievable and absolutely shocking that she can profit in this way.... I can only assume that the policy was in her name only, otherwise you would surely have a right to an equal share of the pay out.
Thank goodness you were able to beat the cancer and have the all clear.
Try not to blame your daughter for the horrible things she has said to you, she must have had her mind twisted by your ex to write such a letter to you.
Hi, thank you for your reply. Yes I agree, I have never blamed my daughters. I always write in my letters and cards to them that dad that Dad is always there for them and they will always be loved etc. It was a joint policy but I signed it over on divorce (i thought it was just the house I was signing over, nevermind) Still....morally?
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