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Hi all,
I have now ben paying £160 directly to my ex-partner for since September and only just realised that she hasn't told CSA, DLA or Tax Credits.
She is now worried as I want to go directly through CSA as I believe I am paying too much.
I have kept all my receipts from her as I didn't want to get screwed over.
Will she get in trouble for not letting the various benefits agencies that I have been paying her CSA?
Thanks
Is that September last year?
If its a family based arrangement she didn't need to tell the CSA, but I'm not sure what the situation is with regards DLA or tax credits.
If you google the CSA calculator and input your details you will get an amount that you should be paying for maintenance.
Yeah sorry September last year.
It says I should be paying £24 a week.
I have been paying her £160 a Month, he spends 3 nights a week at mine, plus I give him £10 a week pocket money. I even pay for some of his school clothes and trips.
But I feel if I stop paying her, she will stop me seeing my son.
....that's always a concern isn't it...if she's worried about you reporting her to the authorities for not declaring the payments she receives from you then maybe you can renegotiate with that in mind.
If she does stop you seeing your son there is mediation, or court to apply for a contact order, but it would be much better to try and sort it out without that.
There's always difficulty when payments need to be reduced, they've got used to the amount...if only it all went on the child then it wouldn't matter as much!
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