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Hi,
Just looking for some advice please, I'm just going through divorce proceedings with my Ex and we have a 10 year old daughter who is currently living in the family home with my ex whilst I have moved out and am currently living in another property we jointly own.
I collect my daughter from school 2 nights a week and 3 nights a week fortnightly (alternating) and have her from 3.15 until 8,30pm as she won't stay over at my house, I also have her alternate weekends so either a Friday night from 3.15 until 9 then 9am until 4 pm, or 4pm Saturday until 9 and then 9am until 4om Sunday again she won't sleep over. On the 2, or 3 days that my ex has her my daughters grandparents collect her from school and have her until 6.30-7pm whereby my ex then picks her up and takes her home.
Because my daughter currently won't sleep over how would my CSA repayments work, would I be eligible for discounts given I have her basically half of the time she has available, by this I mean if you take out sleeping and school I have her for half of her awake time if you understand where I'm coming from?
Any advice would be appreciated,
Have a look at the CMS calculator - payments are generally worked out on overnight contact, not the amount of days.
The calculator is here:
http://www.cmoptions.org/en/calculator/
Is there any particular reason why your 10 y/o will not stay over? Could it be her mum is influencing/encouraging her to not stay over - so she attracts the highest CMS payment?
I believe it will be because of influence and additional payments but couldn't confirm this, a additional frustration is that on the nights her mum her hergrandmother picks her up from school and has her until 6.30 at the earliest sometimes 8pm when my daughter goes to bed at 9. I did the maths last week and I have her on average over 4 days for 17 hours and I have 1 to 1 care, her mum a maximum of 34 hours 9deducting sleep and school hours), It doesn't seem right that I'm expected to pay full maintenance when I have her for half the time of my wife....very frustrating.
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