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After recently adding a second mortgage to my name for a new build I'm starting in the next couple of weeks, my ex applied for a reconsideration of her maintenance payments and because I've had a good bonus recently my payments have doubled. The problem is that taking out the second mortgage was based on my previous payments so this has put myself, my wife and our six year old in a very precarious position indeed. Im in the process of taking her to court and need all the help i can get or advice ? Any help is greatly appreciated and i also don't mind talking on the phone.
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I'm afraid that the CMS are probably correct in using your bonus in their calculation, and they don't take any account of your outgoings or the fact that you have increased your borrowing. What are you taking your ex to court for?
The only way for me to appeal is to take her to court. I'm not seeing my daughter at the minute as she has just hit her teens and as my ex says " she turning into a young lady so just give her space " When i had regular contact every week she went without anything and was spoilt rotten. It breaks my heart that I'm not seeing her and that my ex can just all of a sudden ask for a reconsideration of payments. I need to try and find out if anybody else has been through this situation, thanks for your reply and please any help is greatly appreciated.
I didn't think that was an option....but I'm no expert on the financial side of things. Best of luck.
...her mother should be encouraging her relationship with you. You do have the option of mediation and if that fails, an application to court for a Child Arrangements Order for contact. There's plenty of info about the process in the stickys at the top of the legal eagle section.
I wouldn't leave it too long with this no contact situation, it's your daughters right to have you in her life. It probably suits the mother as if she's not spending overnight stays with you that one less reduction of Child maintenance payments.
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