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Hi,
They have access to HMRC data and can see payslip information (so not your actual payslip but all the details on there) pretty much real time with a few days lag.
They could see my payslip details around 3 days after it was issued to me for my new role.
Always worthwhile uploading it via the portal, so that they can see that what you are telling them matches HMRC and fingers crossed they calculate correctly and give you a revised amount to pay.
Also you should use the online CMS calculator to work out roughly what your new payments should be so that there are no surprises.
Thanks
As ever, thank you for the time taken to reply, I must say, I had the best nights sleep in years last night, I have never wanted to not pay for my son, but I also need to survive and try and get on with my own life, but as discussed previously, the crazy way that income is worked out, the car and benefit in kind, is so unfair on dads, makes me look like I am earning almost £20K more than I am.
I work in hospitality and we are finished, the 80% furlough is just wrong, in effect, I am paying more than I am getting in, living a frugal life, no holidays etc, but my ex and her new partner, post on social media, holidays, new cars and weekends away, just makes me mad and now told I need to pay over £640 per month
Will let you now how I get on, I will still be paying circa £340 per month for my one son, surely enough to live on, but will allow me to actually not worry about no money at the end of every month
hi,
I think you seriously need to avoid your ex and co's social media pages. check this out:
Its a good call Bill, sounds like I am actually more bitter than I am, I guess it was my son contacting me to call off contact, when we had an amazing relationship and clearly for the ex to claim more money
10 years of frustration has come out, but feel much better now, my partner of 5 years, looks at the social media, as she is the one that has seen me struggle, then us as a family so hard for so long and gets upset with the postings, but we have agreed this now stops and we think positive moving forward
thanks again my friend, preparing for my call with the CMS on pension contribution, my background is contract law, so am actually confident with all the information that I have gathered, including the great stuff you sent, that I have not only a moral challenge, but one that is legal as well
regards
for some it must feel like a prison sentence. but on the positive side is that it won't last forever.
I know, what made it possible was the contact I had with my son, but he is 16, I know I did the right thing, always paid more than was asked, holidays, lots of great times and we will be in contact again
thanks again