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Please help.
I separated from the childrens mother 7 years ago... the children are well. She has since remarried and their combined income is aroung 250k/year.
My ex took me to the CSA initially... and then 2 years ago as it transferred to the CMS we negotiated a family based agreement so the CMS no longer manage anything between us... however... every year the CMS contact HMRC and do an annual statement of my financial affairs.... and send a copy of my earnings to my ex.
This causes me anxiety, my ex uses it as a springboard for blackmail. (Do as I say or I'll sting you badly!).
This impacts on me and the kids..... I have no privacy!
I want the CMS to keep their nose out and stop causing trouble for me and the kids.... but they tell me only she can stop the annual statements (.... and that's not gonna happen).
I want some privacy and protection here!
I'm a RGN with a modest income. Apparently the problem is "The Law"......
Does anyone have similar circumstances?
Does anyone have any solutions?
Does anyone know of somehwere I can go to challenge this situation?
Thanks in advance....
...... another frustrated Dad trying to do the right thing by the kids.
Hi,
I'm afraid that everything that CMS are doing, and have said is the correct legal process, and they are correct that only your ex can close the case. If you are paying the recommended amount from the CMS calculator, then there is nothing she can do to sting you - if the family based arrangement is for less than this, then she has the option to go for the full amount, which is presumably what she is threatening.
Unfortunately for you, her income is irrelevant with regards to the calculation, and as CMS are correctly applying the rules, there isn't any action you can take to change this.
Many thanks for your response. Of course you are right... I probably need to stop banging my head against a brick wall.... be grateful that she is happy with the family based agreement (which is around Β£150/month less than CMS calculation)... and get used to being blackmailed and controlled. Many thanks actd π
If you can afford to do so, you could always save that Β£150 (something like premium bonds) - that way you have got a nice tidy sum building up to look forward to that she hasn't got off you π
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