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There possibly would be a thread on this some where, but can't find it.
My daughter (who is 19) which I have no contact with, or her mother. Should have left 6th form doing her "A" levels (from which a bit of social media stalking states she is a bright spark and aces at all her previous exams, so can think she would have to retake her A levels) so she should be out of the CMS qualifying education.
However I don't know what she is doing now, and no way of finding out, I am paying £770 per month and it's actually making me physically ill. CMS don't take into account finance out going which I have to pay to get to work to get the "better money", I may aswel give up.
How can I find out if she's left "full time education" and there's a bit of a fuzzy area to me what is classed as full time ed' as some state it can be if the child is in a employer approved training scheme (which some are just a better worded apprenticeship).
Thank you in advance
hi,
yes it's very difficult where paying parent has no contact with child and ex. CMS go by the status of child benefit. if your ex told child benefit people that your child is on approved education course, then you would be expected to continue paying maintenance. if your able to find evidence that child completely left full time education, you can try contact CMS and HMRC to dispute this. Age 20 is final cut off age, where child benefit and child maintenance terminates. If child starts university course, then you would stop paying maintenance.
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