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Hi, my wife and I have two sons, one with ASD, one PDA. They are not coping with lockdown and it will take a long time to reintegrate into school. I am therefore looking at handing in my notice at work (as my wife earns 3x what I do) in order that I can be at home to cater for the boys and their needs as my wife will soon have to return to work (currently working from home due to lockdown). Once the boys are settled back in school, I am planning to go self employed (I'm a tiler) and do some bits of work that I can fit in around school hours and medical appointments. However, I have no idea what to do about the CMS and the maintenance I pay for my 2 children with my ex wife. She will play merry [censored] about it but I won't have any income whatsoever at first. Any advice would be welcomed.
hi,
i would advise to get in touch with CMS and let them know about your changes. after you quit your job, wait for the termination letter, P45 and last payslip. send all those documents to CMS using online account, and tell them your out of work and not receiving any income. they should suspend your payments.
then when you start being self-employed, let CMS know. they will wait for you to declare your self assessment or company tax return at end of your tax year, so they can re-calculate how much maintenance you need to pay. you don't need to have any discussions about this with your ex, as CMS will be sending her letters about it.
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