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Hi dads,
I am paying for 2 children, which I had regular contacts with on weekends and always paid my CMS. I set up the CMS portal so no disputes on how much I should pay could be questioned back in 2015.
In the last year, my ex (receiving parent) has got into a new relationship. This new guy trys to assault me each time I pick my children up, so I asked her to only be me and her when i pick children up because it is unfair for the children to see that. She denied. I have rang the police (101) before to report but as you can imagine nothing came of it.
Now a few years have passed, i've had no contact with my children or ex.
I've seen on the CMS i can close my case in the portal, and i quote theses are some of the reasons i can close it.
"
If you are experiencing domestic abuse or controlling behaviour, for example:
- psychological or emotionally controlling or manipulative behaviour
- physical or sexual abuse
- financial or economic abuse
- coercive control (an act or pattern of assault, threats, humiliation, intimidation, degradation, isolation or control)
- harassment or stalking
- online or digital abuse"
Do i fall under any of these or am i chasing a red herring?
Child maintenance is due whether you see the children or not. Have you made an application to the court to see the children? How old are they now?
@champagne
Sorry my fault I didn't really give much detail in that post before.
I mean I plan on paying the correct amount stated by the CMS, but want to close my case with them, I am the one that set it up.
But plan on continuing paying direct pay into her bank using the details I have.
I don't know that much about the CMS but wonder why you need to close the case. Can it just stay open and you continue as normal?
@champagne
I was happy using the CMS service, but I made a phone call last week due to arrears being added onto my account. Apparently in 2016 I did not pay the full amount i was expected, around £1,400 over the course of 5 months. I looked back at bank statements and the dates they gave me that I did not pay the right amount, I as actually off sick and receiving SSP, " Around £90 a week i believe" I told the guy that i can prove the payments through, bank and PAYE slips. They said it is too late.
So i am expected to pay that balance, My faith in the CMS being fair towards both parties has now banished and wish not to use them, although my fault not letting them know in the first place, which was stupid on my part. But not accepting it was a mistake and I did not that those wages over the course of the months and still have to pay.
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