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I'm in a new relationship, my partner has three children one of who is severley disabled and she receives carers allowance for him. I believe that if I were the carer I would only pay flat rate maintenance. research I've done suggest that cms cases in Northern Ireland the non resident parent pays flat rate if they or their partner is in receipt of carers allowance. Is that also the case for mainland britain?
I'm sorry I don't know the answer to this.
I would consider calling Child Maintenance Options, they should be able to answer this for you. Unfortunately, I couldn't find a definitive answer for you on their website.
Are you working? If so, if I recall correctly, to get the carers allowance, you have to car for the person for a certain number of hours each week, and if you are working, then I would have thought that this would disqualify you from being the carer. Is this simply a way of trying to avoid paying maintenance - if so, that does seem unfair on your own children to try to use this method.
I am fully aware of the qualification around receipt carers allowance.
I would never try to short change my own children. What I object to is the money I provide not being spent on my kids. More money in my pocket is more money that I can ensure goes to my kids. Without knowing my circumstances it is wrong to suggest that I may e simply trying to get out of providing for them
Hi there,
I have to say that from your initial post and actually from your reply to actd's reply it reads as though you are just trying to be able to stop paying your ex any money.
Unfortunately how the money you give your is spent isn't under your control, she can spend it how she wants, whether that is fair or not, it's just how it is.
GTTS
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