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Hi,
Hoping to get some advice.
I pay CMS for my two children (no shared care although I am in contact with them through social media/messages) They live with their Mum and her 21 year old daughter who I raised as my own from the age of two until I split with her Mum around 11 years ago. I do not pay maintenance for that child (obviously an adult now but never did as she wasn't biologically mine) Her actual father doesn't, and never did pay any maintenance or support of any kind.
Anyway, I have two questions. Firstly, my son, 17 has recently left his college course (two weeks ago) and hasn't took up employment yet. Does this mean the CMS payments should stop? I pay by bank transfer each month, the amount set by the CMS. Of course I would be happy to give him money to help him but I'm not in a position to until the CMS stops. His sister who is still in college is 16. My annual review is in January, does it get reviewed then? What happens if she doesn't tell CMS he has left education? I assume ne telling them wouldn't carry any weight as the paying parent may lie.
The other question is, the 21 year old daughter pays 300 per month to her Mum in board (which seems excessive) Should her Mum be declaring that at all? Obviously she receives child benefit for the two younger children.
The Mum seems to be doing little to help my Son get work and has asked him for 450 a month in board which would cover what she would lose if I stopped paying for him which doesn't seem fair at all for him.
It all seems to point to her not wanting to lose income from me and other benefits over helping him get a job (he has been quite clear he'll doesn't want carry on with college)
Long post, apologies and thanks in advance.