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I just received a letter from CMS saying I owe £700+ to my ex partner to have 3 children with her. Can anyone give me some advice as I simply can't afford this weekly payments. My current situation is my partners 7months pregnant she doesn't receive any benefits and has a 6year old. So the income in the house is what I earn working part time, this means I pay full rent, council tax and bills. I do contribute to my children's upbringing by buying clothes regular and school uniform every year. No amount of money I pay to my ex will never be good enough. This is all new to me bit of advice would be great.
I would get a breakdown of how it's arrived at, and try to get them to agree a timescale to pay it down. Maintenance does not take account of any expenses, but is solely on your income, though there will be a reduction on the basis that you have two dependant children living with you. However, maintenance does cover everything, so you don't need to contribute anything beyond this.
Hello there in your case because you have children living with you and another very soon congrats btw you will get a deduction and also if you have any overnights you will get another deduction so your payments will be fairley low once apparent arrears have been paid I suspect of you contact cms they will help your with time frame.
A would stop buying clothes and anything else just pay the £40 pw or whatever it ends up being ,for now focus on the baby it's a special time !
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