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Hi. After lots of argueing and threats my ex has agreed with me the following. I pay the mortgage and 200 pcm my daughters mobile phone as well. Total about 40% of my wages which is alot more than i should legally but morally it will just be enough to keep my kids fed. Ive agreed this by text and for 6 months and then we review it. Question is have i done the right thing?
Only you can answer that one....40% of your income is a lot and I hope that it doesn't leave you struggling to move on with your life. Good luck.
Hello Baznap
With you having a family-based arrangement it is between you and the other parent to discuss and negotiate what is included within your agreement. Family-based arrangements are not legally enforceable and there are no strict rules or formulas to stick to. Therefore, parents can decide the terms of their agreement to suit their current circumstances.
The Child Maintenance Options website has a useful tools and guides section that you and the other parent may find helpful when trying to negotiate your family-based arrangement. This can be found at http://www.cmoptions.org.
For more information on the different ways to set up child maintenance, you can visit the Child Maintenance Options website.
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Regards
William
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